Te Mate Hinengaro ō Pāpā

Kua mana tēnei kōrero ka tau kotahi ki roto i te tekau o ngā tāne ka whai i tēnei mate pā pōuri.

Ko ētahi āhuatanga whakararu ka kitea mō tēnei mate (i te wā e hapū ana tō wahine) ā, (whaimuri iho te whānau mai ō tō pēpi) inā:

• Ka eketia koe e te mate pā pōuri mua rawa ā
• Ka pā tēnei mate ki ia māmā (tahi mai te rima ō ia māmā ka mau ki te mate pā pouri).

Ko ētahi atu o ngā whakararu hei pēhi i tenei mate ko te kaupapa mō te moni, ko te hononga, ko te mauiui, te pēpi kokoti, ā ka maharahara mo tō hoa pumau te uauatanga i te waha i a ia a pēpi, te whakawhānau, me te roa ake ō tōna hokinga ora mai.  

He maha ngā whainga kua kitea i ngā rangahau he ritenga ngā ira ō māmā me pāpā i te taenga mai ō te pēpi hou (ko ngā piki me ngā heke o ngā taiaki o te tinana e mōhiohia nei ko te; testosterone, estrogen me te cortisol) koia nei ētahi patunga mō te mate hinengaro.

Ka kōrero ake ā Ruka mō tōnā nei whainga o te mate pā pouri  

Pēhea te āwangawanga?

E ai ki te kii he rite tēnei mea te āwangawanga ki tā te mate pā pouri o te pāpā me te mea hoki ka tau ngā mea e rua ki te tane i te wā kotahi.

Ka mohio ake koe, kaore koe i te pai, ā kua tau mai tētahi taumahatanga ki runga i a koe, whakapā ki tētahi atu ka kōrero atu.

Na, ēhara tēnei i te whakaatu he mūrere noa koe ki te patai āwhina, e kao! He painga kē tēnei mou, ā mō tō whānau me tō hoa rangatira. Kia kaha tonu.

Ka ora koe ka hari koe koina te mea nui.

He painga ki te kōrero mo tō mate hinengaro kia wawe tonu. I te kore, inā ka waiho ake, kei mahue te hauora o tō tinana.

Ka motu tō ringa mai te mīhini kani, kore rawa koe e waiho mō te ono marama tatari ai katahi noa ka waea atu ki te waka turoro.

Ka rite anō tēnā ki te haora o tō  hinengaro. Ka mohio koe kei te pā mai te mauiui kaua e tatari mō te ono marama kātahi anō ka wāea mō te āwhina.

Ka motu koe mai te mihi kanī kaore anō kia mahū ake, ka whakaeketia e te pā pouri me te āwangawanga ka kore koe e tere ki te whakatika. Ka tāhuri koe kite tākuta anō ia koe me āu nei rongoa pēnā i te waipiro, te tarutaru me ētahi atu whakararu (noho roa ki te mahi mo te wā ) āhakoa aua mahi ka hē rawa atu te mutunga.

Nā ka mōhio koe kei te whakaeke mai aua tohu ki a kō mō nga wiki e rua, kua eke te wā me tono āwhina.

Ngā tōhu a tinana ka kitea:

• Ngenge
• Kua kore e tino kai
• Kua uaua te moe , hikoi hāere ētahi wā.
• Ka iti ake tōnā rahi
• Ka anīnī te mahunga, ka mamae ngā uaua ō te tinana (maha ngā taumahatanga)

Ka rerekē ngā āria me ngā momo waihanga o te tinana koia nei ētahi tōhu mō te mate pā pouri ka eke:

• pouritanga
• mau tangetange, te ngakau kino
• kiri kawa, āwangawanga, riri
• whakamohū, whakakore mai tō hoa rangatira me ngā hoa, whānau
• Kua kore e rata ki ngā tākaro o mua
• Mataku ki te tiaki i a pepe.

Kaua rerekē ngā whakaaro – hei tauira ake, ka pīrangi koe:

• Kua kore e tāea te hāngai te whakaaro, maumahara i ngā kaupapa.
• He uaua te whakatau whakaaro me ngā mahi ia rā 
• He maha ngā whakaaro kua kore e tāea, kua mau, kua kore e tutuki.  
• Ka whakaaro mō te mate, ā whakamate ake.

Kua rerekē te āhua – ka pēnei:

• Kua kore e aro atu i te āi
• Kua kore e aro atu i tō whānau ka noho roa atu i te mahi.
• Kua kai tarutaru, inu waipiro he momo āwhina ia koe.

He maha ngā pāpā e whakaaro ana kia kaha akē rātou, kia tāea te pupuri i te whānau i te wā kei te tino mate te hinengaro ā māmā anō hoki.

Ko te mea kaha rawa atu me pātai mō te āwhina. Kaua e noho mōhū noa.

Ka tāea te whakatika i te mate pā pouri me te āwangawanga -māu anō e toro atu ki waho kia āwhinatia koe, me moata te tono. 

Kōrero ake. Koia te tuatahi hei tautoko i tō whānau.

He aha ngā kōrero a ngā tāne #Kōreropāpā mō te āhuatanga ō te pāpā mō tō rātou mate hinengaro: